Welcome to the Victim Support section.

[dreammer]

I think I have found the right place to vent about my scammer.I'm pretty new but am learning very fast. THANKS to all who are resposible for this.
Firefly was right you can't just delete your scammer you have to block them. Hope I did it right. Just one day later he contacted me again, so now he's blocked I hope. Slappy was also right, by keeping them in your chat, email what ever you are just punishing yourself, and they try to reel you back in. I was amazed at how stired up I got just because he tried to contact me again. You got to TOTALLY get rid of all contact. So, from there i still get mixed feelings, real hard on myself for 'letting it happen". I know were not stupid, their just good at what they do. I do what if this or what if that, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW HE IS NOT REAL, DA! still a merry go round of emotions. I'm sure that's normal at this point. Hope so.
I'm working a lot of hours right now which is probably a good thing. I just wish one day could go by without thinking about the whole situation. You know how some people are, I want it fixed right now, don't work that way, I know. I'm a Christian woman so that is a very big source of knowing I'm OK. AND I don't know what I would do If I didn't have this site. Some day I hope I can give back. I'm sure I will be back agian, and thank all of you for being here to listen and I love feed back. dreammer

[Pinky]

We're all happy we could be here for you. Don't rush yourself and don't worry about getting emotional from time to time. Everyone heals at their own pace. However, I have discovered that the fastest way for anyone to heal is to pitch in and help others wherever they can. By adding your testimonial here, that the advice you were given, was the right advice, you have already helped others who might think, "For me it will be different and I don't need to do as advised." Reporting your scammer and providing his details for others to find, is also another big step in the right direction and promotes healing. You have helped others find the truths they need to protect themselves.

Last, by adding your opinions and experiences here, you are comforting and aiding others who are also in your shoes. The experience you've been through is humiliating and demoralizing to most who go through it. Helping others is the way of gaining back your own self respect. It's reassuring and gratifying when people thank you and acknowledge you for the kind and generous person that you truly are. When you realize that you are a much bigger, better and happier person than the cockroach who scammed you will ever be, the pain will cease.

[dreammer]

THANK YOU PINKY LOVE THE FEEDBACK,.

[Ralph Warner]

I have been emailing a recent scam survivor who has been directed here for comfort and support.

Here emails to me so far are much the same as so many others, she had borrowed money from others to give to her scammer and is now at a loss to figure out where to go now.

Threads like this are a huge help so there is something to be thankful for already

[okieme]

Welcome to a new section of the forum, where you can ask questions and hopefully receive the help, or at least advice you need to move on after dealing with your scammer. This section will be looked after, but not moderated by Pinky. Please do not post any scammer information here, but continue to post them in the relevent sections of the forum.

Opps so sorry Wayne .... I failed to read before I did my last post in this section. I added some information from one of my kind of investigating emails to see if someone would open. I will go and add it to the correct forum now.

Thanks okieme

[Pinky]

Don't worry about it Okieme. That's part of what we're here for. People make mistakes. We move things around.

[SlapHappy]

Yes no need for apologies. We not only Moderators, but Moverators, too! That is half the job here, rearranging all the shelves and cleaning the closets.

[dreammer]

Well, it's been almost 1 month since I found out I was being scammed. At least I can KNOW I will live through this. I think it's safe to say I don't think about it every day like I did. I still wish I could shout it from the roof tops about this horrible experience. I believe every thing we go through helps strenghten our character. What I would really like to do is go on Dr. Phil show and tell the whole world about these horrible people. I know my new job (which I took to fix my finances from the scam) helps me occupy my mind, and Christmas just around the corner (which I love) also occupies my mind. It will probably take about 5 years to clean up my mess. At least I can fix mine; I know some people got in deaper than I did and couldn't fix it. I'm ever so grateful for my bank. I believe every thing is for a reason. I have figured out that this THING was all I cared about for the most. The thngs I really cared about I had lets say I abandon throughout this time. When I think back even the things I know are important in a relationship, I didn't follow. AND real love doesn't really happen that fast at least not in my experiences. That shows just how good they are at what they do. I"m not sure I will ever go to another Dating sight. By the way I broke every rule they tell you not to do. Doesn't mean I don't want to meet some one just not that way. I know I've made progress and I will keep in touch to tell you more. To the next new person, there is life after being scammed. Again thanks to the Team for all you do.

[Pinky]

I think you'll find your life and finances will shape up faster than you think because you're on the right course and you've got a great attitude and outlook. You deserve all the blessings I know will come your way. Thanks for keeping in touch.

[dreammer]

Thanks Pinky, St least I know someone is reading my stuff.

[duckhunter]

Lots of us are reading your stuff. It's just that when Pinky speaks she says things we all agree with. We also know that you have been under the wing of Ralph. We always knew you were safe.

I have watched your posts and your progress and you should know that my heart has been with you every step of the way. I'm impressed by your strength and effort to become a bigger and better person than the cockroach who tried to hurt you ... it's another win for the good guys.

We do notice dreammer, and we care, more than you may ever know.

[princess9298]

Ok I am usually not one that either shares his or emotions easily and I have past experience in scamming in the prison systems. But I was surly not ready for being scammed on the internet when it came to romance!!! I can tell you I am very thankful for this site because without it I would probably still be getting scammed!
It has definitely been a process but understanding what has happened and why and that there is others has let me move on in the process and made me stronger!
I want everyone to know that whatever assistance I can be on here I will surly take the time to help! I cant tell you I will make it all go away and I cant tell you that it is going to be easy but I can tell you that time heals all wounds! You are still a good person and he or she did not take your inner identity! I can also tell you that the further you put your scammer away from you the better you will feel! So just hold on and take the necessary actions to stop contact with the scammer and everything else will work itself out! I know that there is a since of violation and betrayal that is felt in most but know that there are people out there especially on this site that are willing to help and inform others of what steps that need to be taken to keep this from happening again! Happiness will be yours again in the future!

Thanks Wayne, Pinky, and personally the others that helped talk me through this and help me to find peace in my heart!
In Dept,
princess

[SlapHappy]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts here with the members, princess.
I hope it helps the members and the readers to realize that life will go on, and that things will get better for them. And every member of this site is willing to help them. Thank you so much for posting.

[Pinky]

You lost nothing to the scammer than can't be regained. You gained humility, power, wisdom, strength, courage and a whole lot more. What a trade, huh? You're the winner!

Thanks for caring and for your compassion for others and thanks for posting.

[princess9298]

Thanks and you are very welcome! I would like to thank you guys though because it is the people on this site that put it together that has made it possible for me to move on and feel better about myself!!! It has only been about a week since my issue took place and I know that everyday that goes by I think about it less and less! The biggest thing is knowing that I am a good person and that even though I was fooled once does not mean for one there is not someone out there for me and two that it will happen again! It may happen again but atleast I will know what to look for so that I do not get my emotions tied all up into it!

I again would like to thank each and everyone that helped me through this!!!!!!Thanks especially to you Slappy!!!!